My Dear Wedding Photographer

My Dear Wedding Photographer,

I wish to acquaint with you before my D-day. I wish to be familiar with you and break that ice as soon as possible so that I am not awkward when you click my pics throughout my wedding week. I want my pictures beautiful and natural, happy and full of glee, not reserved and stoic as they usually are.

I find myself smiling and looking at the camera when asked to pose for any click but I would like you to know that I  am cringing deep inside. I am fidgeting in my mind and wishing to vanish from the spot before the flash can light my face up. I am embarrassed at not knowing how to pose. I am awkward at not knowing how and where to look, how to tilt my head so that I don't look stoic or bored, and how to place my hair strands so my smile doesn't look forced. I don't know a thing about what to do with my hands and legs while posing- they seem to be extras sticking out of my body. I don't know a thing about makeup either. So you can imagine what a disaster I am in photo sessions.

This was a brief heads-up for you, that clicking me is going to be tricky and exhausting for you. And the worst part is, I can't help being so. Still, I do have a lot of hopes from you. I too dream of clicking those beautiful wedding pics to cherish the entire life. I want those once in a lifetime moments captured in frames. Do something pretty please. Use your magic wand and make it happen.

Few pointers now. Do not ask me to pose, and now you know why. Show me your talent by capturing those uninhibited, emotional, carefree, unnoticed moments when I am not even noticing. Do click the scenes as naturally as you can, as if the time stood still in your captures. Try to do so without seeking my attention. Tough feat- but I trust you. My attention will just ruin it all, don't trust me.

Wish you all the best.



Queeristan by Parmesh Sahani

  Queeristan (Amazon Link) Thanks to Audible Free Trial I listened to this amazing non-fiction on LGBTQ inclusion in Indian workplaces. Author Parmesh Sahani identifies as gay Indian, working closely with Godrej higher management and employees for years to create an inclusive workplace, both legally and in spirit. This book is a result of those years of experience, research, collaboration with individuals from difference spectrum of the society and organizations who has successfully transitioned into a queer friendly one.   Indian history is inclusive. From the Khajuraho temple architectures, to Konark to the Rig Veda, there is existing proofs even 2000 years ago of Indian inclusiveness of queer. It’s the draconian British law that criminalised it, which was scraped in 2009, came into effect once again following a sad judgement in 2013 and eventually was scraped off for good in 2018. I am in awe of the lawyers who fought this legal battle- colleagues and partners – Arundhati Katju

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