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It is in common saying that man is known by the company he keeps. He is the average of the 5 to 7 persons that he spends most of his time with. Naturally, his perspective and viewpoint will be affected by those around him, be it a situation as small as deciding which movie is good, to discussing life and arguing on global issues.
Is this true?
Are we really forming our opinions on other’s premise? Many of you would be thinking a loud ‘No’ right now. I want you to remember the last time when you chose to stick by your opinion that the book you read was ‘awesome’ while your friends said it was ‘boring’. Or the time when you thought a dish was ‘delicious’ when the entire family said it was ‘tasteless’. Most must have settled for an average of the two extreme comments- ‘It’s okay. I like it.’ or ‘it’s good, edible.’ If it’s not so, then you’re in the good ground. But if it is so, you need to face this weakness. You don’t want to be a parrot that repeats, what his fellow mates say, now do you?
Why we try forming our opinions keeping others in mind?
One of the many reasons is the lack of confidence in our own opinion. This makes us depend on others’ opinion, thinking if many people share the same opinion, then it must be good and true indeed. You are no cattle, dear. Don’t follow the herd. Take your own stand. Be brave enough to voice your own opinion, that which you truly believe in.
Another reason is seeking acceptance and belonging in the crowd. You make a statement, a comment to please others, doesn’t matter whether you believe in it or not. But remember that flattery can do no one any good. Rather seek respect by taking your unwavering stand on a point.
Some of us are just unable to make our own opinion. We just don’t know how to. We are told what to do, what to choose, what to wear, what to eat and even where to go, by our elders ever since childhood. We literally depend on them for every decision we need to take. We need to learn that seeking advice is good, but taking the final judgment ourselves can satisfy us the most.
When we don’t know anything about what is being discussed, we don’t want to come out vulnerable about our lack of knowledge. Mingling with the crowd is the safest option.
Are you afraid to form your own opinion?
Are you afraid to speak your mind? Don’t be. “Sabse bada rog, kya kahenge log”- the greatest disease of all is ‘What will people say?’ Others’ opinions matter so much to us. A teen takes up engineering coaching classes instead of the dance classes he wishes so much to take. A woman does not come out of a dysfunctional marriage by taking divorce. We seek approval wherever we go, in every stage of life. What will our parents say? What will the society speak of us?
What good does this do to us? Nothing.
How to try forming our opinions, not on other’s premise?
Don’t jump to the conclusion: You need to let go of all kind of prejudices to get an unbiased view of the topic. Don’t take other’s words for granted. Open your mind to different views. It doesn’t let you narrow your perspective. Learn to consider counter views without judging them too much. Pay heed to your intuition too. Your gut instinct tells you something’s wrong even when everything seems right.
Be informed: Little knowledge is a dangerous thing. You should be informed of the situation thoroughly. If you are not, then it’s alright. It’s never too late to mend. Read a lot- newspaper, periodicals, etc. Subscribing to news updates in your smartphone is one of the best options.
Research: Sometimes it so happens that we tend to go with the herd. We think, so many people can’t be wrong, as happened recently in the Free Basics campaign led by Facebook. But after researching what is the argument between Free Basics and net neutrality is, most of us changed our opinion. Watch interviews.
Widen your group: Network more. You’ll come across so different views. Therefore, someone has rightly said- make a friend who is 15 years older than you and another 15 years younger, both do you a lot of good.
Others opinions do affect us a lot. But we need to sieve away the ones that do us no good. We are affected a great deal by how others affect our thinking. We are psychologically inclined to believe what we hear than doubt it. We need to learn and practice the way out.
Busan Fireworks Festival is a big deal. It’s conducted annually near Gwangalli Beach, Busan, South Korea- one of the most popular beaches among youth in the country. Brightly colored lights in the sky, reflect in the crystal clear waters too, making it quite an enchanting sight. People throng from around the country and the world to witness the festival, it’s one of the much awaited one’s around the year. There’s music along with the sky show, there’s open restaurants near the beach, and roof top coffee shops where people can spend romantic moments with their loved ones while watching the beautiful fireworks lighting up the night sky.
This fantasy-like city is a backdrop in many of the Korean drama series and movies, providing the best suited romantic setting for a scene. Though the most recent one that comes to my mind is ‘Train to Busan’, the movie on zombie apocalypse, but the city is far from being dark or sinister. It’s the second largest island in Korea with beautiful scenery t…
You never know who would influence you so much that it changes the course of your life itself. When you meet them for the first time, you just know the person’s about to bring out the best in you. Years later, you realize what a miracle it was to have them in your life.
The role of a teacher or mentor is great- the one person that can show you the path you’d want to follow, the one person who can change your perspective and your life if you ever allow. In ‘Doctors’ the female lead character played by Park Shin Hye is influenced by her homeroom teacher to make something out of her life, and leave behind the careless wayward ways. You are lucky if you have a guide, who shows never tells; who acts never preaches and in turn inspires you to take the reins of your own life. He saves you from your own self-imposed doom, the reckless and uncertain future. He gives you something to look forward to in life- a dream, a wish to fulfill, an aim to work upon, and an ambition to chase. He lets yo…
Some people have an uncanny knack of looking through you. You cannot hide your thoughts, the workings of your mind from them. Your innermost ruminations are known to them. Your deepest desires are seen by them clearly. They just need to have an eye contact and they can see you. The real you. You can't get away with pretense. You cannot disguise in front of them. You cannot be safe in your fake cocoon when they are around. You are being watched.
“There is another city right under our city and it comes up only when you and I are together. Only you and I know about it and only you and I get to experience it. It keeps itself hidden from the rest of the world. And that is where I live.” He said.“And what happens when you’re not with me?” She asked.“I evaporate.” He smiled. The Reading Experience:
There have been times when I have devoured a book solely because of its exquisite narrative. I have relished it word by word and the sheer joy of the experience is beyond me to express. This is yet another such book. The narrative is cerebral, mysterious, addictive, and poetic – complete with metaphors, similes, rhymes, and rhythms. I remember two novels by international writers that had overwhelmed me, wowed me, blew my mind by their magical narration- ‘The Debt of Tamar’ by Nicole Dweck, and ‘We were Liars’ by E.Lockhart. This particular book ‘White Noise’ by Shruti Upadhaya is comparable to these bestselling gems.
‘Autumn in my heart’ is a tragic love story. It has tears in almost every episode. It is one of the four ‘Endless love’ season themed dramas- Spring Waltz, Autumn Tale, Winter Sonata, and Summer Scent.
Two babies are born on the same day- Eun suh and Shin ae. By mistake, they are exchanged by their families. While Eun suh’s childhood is a happy one spent with the parents and the brother Joon suh, Shin ae’s is a tiring one spent working in the restaurant and dealing with a thug of a brother. After 14 years due to an accident to Eun suh, the parents come to know that their blood types don’t match and that Eun suh is not their daughter. After huge emotional turmoil and numerous heart breaks, the children are switched back again, disregarding what will become of Eun suh and Joon suh. Both are never used to living without each other, and miss the childhood days immensely. Joon suh’s family leaves for the US for 8 years. The separation is heart wrenching. After 8 years, Joon suh comes bac…
Scarlet Heart has been one of the best romantic tales of the year in Asian Dramas, not just in Korean Drama. With an ensemble cast, it was sure to win hearts from the very beginning. It was the first series that I didn’t binge watch, rather I chose to wait every week and watched only two episodes that were available the respective Mondays and Tuesdays. I had never ever waited for any episode so impatiently. I watched the episodes again and again during the wait, read forums on it, listened to the songs from the series, watched the cast’s interviews, and still missed it like hell. I missed the characters for the five days that I waited every week for the next episode to be broadcast and be available with subtitles.
The strategy used by the directors and writers of this phenomenal series is one of sheer torture for the fans. They introduce so many characters worth meeting- some so adorable, some hard on the exterior hiding a painful past, some charming and kind and some wicked and plott…
After a day
of fun or annoyance or dejection or just mere boredom, writing is the only
getaway for a girl who has an abundance of thoughts and feelings, too
overwhelming to keep them in and too personal to say them aloud. To such a
girl, not being able to write is a nightmare and not wanting to write, a living
hell. And in the midst of it all, the medium of writing is a dilemma difficult
While I find
the idea of writing on a blank sheet of paper with a fluid pen, regal and tempting,
there is a comfort in the keyboard of my laptop or the keypad of my smart
phone. Though the sight of a person bent over a paper, holding a pen in his
hand, engrossed in deep thoughts evokes a certain charm and fascination, when I
sit down to try and create a masterpiece, I become aware of the triviality of
the words I write, the sentences I present and the ideas they portray. When I
do resolve to write a good readable piece in my diary, I end up with only a page
full of cuts and scratches and…